Here is a very simple, yet effective, model to use when setting goals. It’s the BE-DO-HAVE Model. The place to begin is with the HAVE. Identify what you want to have. An example of this might be; I want to HAVE a slender, fit body.

The middle part is what you have to DO in order to achieve what you want to HAVE. In this example, to HAVE a fit slender body, what you would have to DO is to follow a diet and an exercise regime.

Most people just do these two parts. What usually happens then is that the DO bit of the formula becomes unsustainable. (This is why diets and exercise regimes so often collapse after a little while.) The change is only on the outside.

It is essential to include the BE portion of this model. Consider who you have to BE in order to DO what you want to HAVE. So in our example, who do you have to BE in order to follow through on your diet and exercise regime? This will be different for each individual, but might include things like:

truthful
committed
centered
self-aware
relaxed
authentic
and so on...

You get the picture.

When you get the BE part in place, the DO part almost does itself and effortlessly leads to the HAVE.